Coaches, have you ever paused for a moment or taken the time to reflect on the balance you’re keeping between your family and coaching? I know that can be a tough question to ask yourself, but there may not be a more important one to consider. In fact, take a moment right now and ask yourself two things:
If things keep going the way they are now, when I’m done coaching will I consider myself successful?
If things keep going the way they are now, when I’m done coaching will my family consider me successful?
In all the busyness of coaching—the juggling of endless responsibilities, the pressure to perform, the people who are depending on us day in and day out—sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in simply trying to survive. Our coaching life ends up like Bill Murray’s character Phil from Groundhog’s Day. We go through the grind of each day, lay our head down at night, and wonder what we could have done better … only to wake up and do it all over again the next morning.
I have a simple challenge for us as coaches. I challenge each of us to take a timeout today. A timeout to pause and reflect on our own lives. As we take this timeout, there are three basic steps that we must honestly contemplate in order to evaluate our coaching/family balance.
1. Decide now how you want to look back at your life.
What things do you envision bringing a smile to your face? What type of legacy would you like to leave? Who do you hope you will have had the most impact on?
2. Prioritize the most important things in your life first.
Be intentional. Don’t plan your life around your job. Plan your life, and work your job. If you were to give away your time as your most precious gift, how would you divide it and give it away?
3. Do life together.
Find ways to involve the ones you love in the things you love. What role(s) will your loved ones play in your coaching career? What role(s) will you play in supporting their hopes and dreams?
The way each of us chooses to implement these things into our own life may look different for each of us, and that’s just fine. Take the time to consistently evaluate (i.e. daily, weekly, monthly) how successful you were each of the three areas, and how you can improve in them as well.
Let’s face it, winning as a coach is great, but those victories become so much sweeter when we experience them with the love and support of our families.